Rev. Allan M. Lurvey, Th.D obituary

Rev. Allan M. Lurvey, Th.D, 83, of Stratham NH died January 22, 2023 at home after a valiant battle over the past year with mesothelioma.

He is survived by his 22-year-old wife Phyllis (Bailey) and children Betsy Murphy (Michael), Scott Lurvey and Matthew Lurvey from his first marriage to Janice (Partridge), who died in 1990. He is also survived by stepsons David Chase (Stacy) and William Chase (Michelle) and grandchildren Shannon Lurvey, Michael and Laura Murphy, Brittney Wigdorski, great-granddaughter Liora Lurvey, Evelyn, Tyler and Connor Chase. He is survived by two brothers, Kenneth Lurvey (June) and Russell Lurvey (Barbara) and many beloved nieces and nephews.

Allan was born on Thanksgiving Day 1939 to Harold Draper Lurvey and Alice (White) Lurvey, a poultry farmer, in Dracut, MA.

He had a distinguished career as a psychologist in private practice in Hampton and Portsmouth, New Hampshire, from 1970 until his death. He was also associate minister of Melrose (MA) First Congregational Church and Rand Memorial Congregational Church in Seabrook, NH during the 1960s, and Minister of Pastoral Care at Stratham (NH) Community Church in recent years. He was a beloved husband, father, stepfather, papa and family man, valued friend and colleague.

Allan graduated from Dracut (MA) High School in 1957 as the president of his class and went on to earn a bachelor’s degree, commuting to Massachusetts State College at Lowell. He received his master’s degree from Bangor (ME) Theological Seminary in 1964 and his Th.D from Boston University in 1974.

He was a natural leader. He served as President of the Northeastern Society for Group Psychotherapy from 1984 to 1986 and of the New Hampshire Psychological Association from 1996 to 2002. He was coordinator of the Seacoast Area CROP Hunger Walk 2005-2022 and has held leadership positions at Stratham Community Church to date.

Allan has been a fervent Patriots fan since 1966, an ardent lover of classical music, particularly Beethoven, a supporter of the BSO and Tanglewood. He loved history, debated politics and religion, explored the origins of the universe and traveled with Phyllis, whether on winding back roads, exploring national parks, vacationing in Europe, British Columbia, the Maritimes, Mexico or Central America. However, his “happy place” was St. Thomas USVI. An avid hiker, golfer and swimmer, he counted among his favorite family activities football parties, IPAs and ice cream parlors.

He will be remembered by family and friends mostly for his tongue-in-cheek humor, witticisms, hearty laugh, listening ear, kindness, wisdom and bear hugs. He dedicated his life to good causes and donations can be made in his memory to Seacoast (Exeter) Area NH CROP Hunger Walk, PO Box 176, Exeter NH 03833.

The consultation will take place on Friday 27 January from 4pm to 7pm at the Stockbridge Funeral Home, 141 Epping Road, Exeter NH.

There will be a celebration of life on Saturday, January 28th at 11am at Stratham (NH) Congregational Church. The service will be streamed live and will be available a few weeks after by going to the Stratham Community Church website on and scrolling to Allan Lurvey Celebration of Life.

Posted January 25, 2023

Published in Portsmouth Herald/Foster’s Daily Democrat/Seacoast Sunday, Portsmouth Herald/Foster’s Daily Democrat/Seacoast Sunday